Sunday, March 30, 2014

Second Child Syndrome

Our dog Sugar had her 1st birthday this and I brought her to the vet for a checkup.  This was when I realized that Sophie turned 4 three months ago, and I still haven’t scheduled her annual checkup.  Looking back at my older posts it’s easy to see that there is much more about Gracie on the blog. 
 
Actually, Sophie is pretty much the reason I stopped blogging.  That’s not completely fair-I also stopped because Steven mentioned me “always on the computer” one day while I was writing.  When I recently mentioned this to him he said that he never thought I blogged too much. Actually, he is happy that I have the online journal for Gracie.  Communication, folks.  It’s a wonderful thing.  I am often complemented on my communication skills at work.  When I come home and tell Steven about thee instances, we both laugh. 
 
I just didn’t want to take the time to do it while caring for two.  If you have two (or more) children or if you’ve ever heard any birth order theories, you may already know about this.  There is much more hullaballoo surrounding the first child.  I mean, she’s your first; the game changer.  Of course, I’m speaking in generalities, but you’ve already experienced all the “firsts” and you are so consumed with that new little person you want to document EVERYTHING.  When the second one comes along, either you are too tired, lazy, or you just realize that it’s not that important to have a picture of their first poop on the potty.  In my case, I was busy trying to care for a toddler and a newborn.  I documented some milestones, but I used an app instead of a baby journal.  I took just as many pics and videos (well, almost), but they weren’t uploaded anywhere.  Gracie and Sophie both love looking at baby pictures of themselves, as do I; so I’d like to get some old stuff of Sophie’s up here.  I’m not sure that it’ll benefit anyone but me, so if I actually do it, I likely won’t posts the links to facebook.
 
Poor Sophie.
She's a tough one.  Good thing too, because she's damn clumsy!  I'm not sure either of those traits are due to her birth order.  This picture was taken shortly after she accidentally fell into the Tickfaw today. 
 

Saturday, March 1, 2014

Quivering Ovaries?

Not this girl.
 
Last week I got to hold a coworker's new baby for a long while. Normally, this would make my ovary (yes, just the one) hurt.  This time, all it did was make my pits sweat.  She (the baby) was wonderful and cute and sweet (and warm), but I didn’t feel that normal longing ache that I usually get. So maybe this is it-the end of baby-making.  If it is, my psychiatrist will be happy to hear it.  Although, if there are no more kids, it may mean less visits and consequently, less money for him J
 
For me, 35 is the cut-off age.  I already feel older than I am, so if I wait any longer I think it would spell doom. Besides, I am blessed with two healthy girls. Why tempt fate?  Just like I wasn’t definitive about coming back to blogging, though, I won’t be definitive about this.  According to my calendar, I have until December to get prego and deliver before I turn 36.  I’ll keep you posted.
 
Happy Mardi Gras!
 

Saturday, February 22, 2014

I'm back!

Even as I type that title I get worried that it's too strong of a conviction. I'm still me, still busy, still lazy, still flaky, still have my priorities out of whack, and even more dangerous, still have no filter.  Mental note: no complaining about work. 
 
So, rather than I'm back, how about I'm coming back? I love to write. Frankly, I miss it. I’ve been going back and reading my old posts and it’s making the itch to return even stronger.  It also helps that several people have told me that they miss my blog and that I am a great writer. It feels amazing to hear people say I am good at something-especially something I enjoy.  The main reason I’ve stayed away is that I haven’t made time to post. Since I sit in front of the computer all day at work, it’s the last thing I want to do when I get home.  Besides, I post the good stories (at least, the abbreviated versions) on fb.
 
The other reason is my moods.   I mentioned before that I didn’t want to blog because raising my girls was too hard for me, and I’m not very good at dealing with it.  I’ve said in jest that I didn’t need CPS knocking on my door. Well, things are getting easier. Not easy, but easier.  For now.  Rather than CPS, now I'm more worried about the mental and emotional damage I'm doing.  And with some of the other blogs I’ve been reading, the Orange Rhino, Scary Mommy, and a myriad of other authors who aren’t scared to parade their ugly sides for the greater good…they’ve given me some hope. They’ve helped me become more courageous.
 
Having said all that, this post won’t even be about the kids. I need to get something more pressing off my chest.  Last Tuesday my whole world changed.  What I thought was a regular daily email update from Baton Rouge Business Report turned out to be a story that caused confusion and sadness. 
 
After 15 years in business, my mainstay is gone.
 
So many memories: birthday celebrations, girls nights, baby showers, pregnancy announcements, my bridesmaids’ lunch.
 
This was the place I went when I had a writing assignment about food.  Maybe I'll post that one day.
 
It was the place where I went for countless 2 week waits: the time between ovulation and the (hoped for) positive pregnancy test.  To wait 9 months for a taste seemed an eternity. 
 
It’s the reason Gracie slept through the night for the first time.  She liked that margarita milk J
 
And more recently, it's where I would go (at least twice per day) on those amazing fall Saturdays I spend on LSU's campus. This tradition will be a hard one to get over.  I’ve already decided to start saving for my very own margarita machine.  What other choice do I have?
 
The worst part is I didn’t even get a warning.  Sure, I noticed the declining food quality and consequently declining business, but surely those packed fall Saturday's made up for that.  At least in my not-so-business-savvy mind.  There was no “going out of business" sale.  No last call.  No closure. 
 
It’s not just about the margaritas, it’s about the memories. Ok, it’s mostly about the margaritas.
Goodbye Serrano’s. I’ll never forget you.  

 

Friday, May 21, 2010

The Evolution of the Blog

I'm on by accident tonight and I'm so sad that i haven't written since February. And even that entry was 2+ months late.

I've been thinking about blogging alot lately if that counts for anything.

Wondering about Sophie reaching her milestones, i've gone back and looked at my old entries and it's more sadness. I was so good. My entries were so interesting. I seemed like a totally different person. Hell, i was a different person. I used to be so much fun. But i'm a mom now. So i guess i'm fun in different ways, right? The screaming-at-your-kids, having-a-routine, wanting to sleep instead of do anything, kind of fun :)

Back when the blog started, it was a tell-all (mostly). I guess that's part of what made it interesting. People love drama. Infertility was a saga. Once the kid came, drama lessened. ANd if there was drama, it was downplayed to protect the guilty, -er innocent. Once i was prego the second time, that was more crazy drama, but again, downplayed. And on top of that, i was still focused on gracie and her milestones. Plus i had alot less time to blog. Now, with 2, i have no time to blog. Or, the time i have (as i said earlier) i'd rather sleep :) Definiyely don't want to come home from being on the computer all day to get on the computer.

But, i digress. That was my excuse for the past several months of not writing.

But the evolution of the blog-it's gone from a tell-all infertility saga to a picture posting website for my babies. Or baby, since Sophie has barely made it on here. Facebook doesn't help, either, since it's too easy to update there with pics and notifications. So, i guess what i'm saying is, I'm not really sure i need a blog anymore. It's only good-for me and for you-if it's updated regularly and i just don't think i can commit to it again. Besides, i won't be as forthcoming with all the "fun" stories, feelings, etc, because i'm a mom now. I have to keep my kids best interest 1st (and CPS off my back since i joke too much).

I'll keep you posted. ANd if i don't, then i guess you'll figure out my decision :)

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Sophie's Birth Story

TMI-childbirth is disgusting

On Christmas Eve i was on my feet cooking all day. I thought i felt a few very small contractions, but nothing to be concerned about. I went to the bathroom once that night and came out and was talking to Christine in the kitchen when i thought i felt my water brake (is that the past,past tense of broke in this situation?). Anyway, went the the bathroom to check and it was clear and more fluid than usual but not like the movies with a constant stream. I've read that it won't be like that, especially if you are standing (which i was) because the baby's head acts like a cork. Thanks, What to Expect When You're Expecting :) I called the dr and she told me i could either go in and get assessed or rest and see if i would soak a pad in an hour. Of course i decided the latter. I didn't, so it turns out that the fluid was just the beginning of losing my plug. When i was prego with Gracie i lost my plug on Thursday night and went into labor Friday night, so i knew she was coming soon. This terrified me so from that moment and all day on Christmas i didn't do much and felt great. Everyone says to make a baby come you keep moving, so i did the opposite. And normally i don't believe in old wives tales :)

On the 26th, Steven and i cleaned the house as much as we could getting ready. I had a few contrax during the day. In the afternoon they were getting strong enough to make me stop what i was doing, so we called Steven's sister to come get Gracie. They offered to take her Xmas night but i was either in denial or stubborn. Plus i kinda wanted to spend another night as a family of just 3. Contrax continued, but nothing became regular until about 6:30pm. At that time Steven started writing down the time and duration. When we started that, they were about 30 minutes apart. We were just sitting around waiting. We were actually watching Knocked Up which was kinda fitting :) They were pretty regular, but not nearly as painful as the ones i had with gracie. In fact, we both kept waiting for the intensity to increase. Some i had i didn't even write down because they were so "small." They also got closer alot quicker. It was an hour or so when they were 15 min apart. That's when i told Ally who was at Nina's party in Covington. C&A were on their way back.

I figured Sophie'd come faster (Old Wives Tale with second babies, you know) so i didn't want to wait the standard 5 minutes apart for 1 hour. I did that last time and was 6-7cm when i got to hospital. So, this time, i called when they were about 5 min apart and i only had a couple. Well, that's what i planned to do, but i kept saying "after the next one." I was just worried about being that girl who went in too early-was only 2 cm and ended up having a c section from an induction that didn't work. My laparotomy i had when i was prego with gracie wasn't even as bad as a section and i was bad off-couldn't even move-so i knew i couldn't have that with gracie to care for.

The dr took too long to call me back when i called on Xmas eve, so instead of waiting we left right after we called. I had Steven rub my lower back really hard whenever i was contracting and that helped ALOT. Ally rode with us and she rubbed when i had them in the car-so helpful. Anyone wanting to try natural childbirth i highly recommend the back rubs-and having someone else there to help you when your partner can't or gets tired. On the way to the hospital i was able to post on fb that we were headed there :) Gotta love technology.

When i went in with gracie, they made me go to the assessment center by myself. I was brought to an office and asked all kinds of questions until the nurse saw i was to uncomfortable. I guess this time they saw i was already too uncomfortable. They let steven come with me and got me straight to a bed to check me. When the nurse said i was 8 cm I was shocked and I was TERRIFIED! I knew this baby was coming soon and i needed drugs. I knew it wasn't too late to get them, what i was scared of was that they wouldnt kick in before she was ready to come out. From then on everything happened pretty fast and slow all at the same time.

The anesthesiologist took forever getting to the room. Steven was holding my hand and trying to talk me through the contrax, but they were BAD. The nurses in there were wonderful, too. Kept reminding me to breathe. At one point Steven said, "SHHHHHHHHHH, SHHHHH." I couldn't believe it! I said, "Did you just f*ckin shush me???" He explained that he's used to trying to calm and soothe Gracie that way, so it was habit :) I wasn't facing them at the time, but he said the nurses looked at him crazy, too. He actually did it again to but at that point it would have been comical if i wasn't hurting so bad. The drugs were taking so long i told steven to lie to me and tell me he was coming even if he wasn't.

Finally, the anesthesiologist made it. Thank God! But steven had to leave the room(good thing otherwise he wouldn't have had time to notify the photographer to come in:)). This was terrible :( But again the nurses were incredible. Letting me scream and hold their hands. So i got the epidural and keep waiting for relief and it doesn't seem to be coming. They kept pumping me full of stuff and still-painful contractions. I feel my water break and heavy pressure on my bottom and get so scared again. I'M GOING TO HAVE THIS BABY AND FEEL EVERYTHING :(. I told steven, "i can't do it" and "why aren't the drugs working?" They loaded me up and also have me something extra in my IV to help. I heard the dr say something like "this is the last one i can give her." Oh God! More fear. Then, relief came. When i finally relaxed i was over 9 cm. A few minutes later the dr (Whitaker) said, "ok, i'll be back in a minute. We'll break your water and have a baby." We said, "water already broke" and she says, "ok, then lets have a baby." After that she was out in a few pushes. It was amazing. Even easier than the 1st time. Steven didn't splash my face with cord blood this time :) We got to the hospital around midnight and she was born at 1:02am. A new personal record.

Steven said i was so close...i definitely could have done it without the drugs. I guess i probably could have, but for me it's not something i need to find out :) But-according to lamaze-the dilation is the hard part...which i got through. Supposedly the actual birth is just more like a pressure feeling. I bet they lie though :)

I couldn't believe she was mine when i saw her with all that black hair. I never thought i'd have a baby with so much hair. So many people asked me if i had heartburn it's funny. I guess this pregnancy/birth was just a walking stereotype. Nevermind the fact that i had heartburn before i was prego. They cleaned her a little and we tried to breastfeed. She latched on like a champ! That's what i was most nervous about. I mostly hated bfing w gracie. At least for a long time i did.

This time the after part was the slow part. It felt like forever when we finally got to our room. I made sure ally took a pic of the afterbirth this time. I know, that's disgusting, but i wouldn't have gotten to see it otherwise. No, i won't post the picture :) My recovery seemed to go alot faster this time. I don't know if it's because i wasn't so scared of everything like i was the 1st time. We even got out of the extra day at the hospital again. We were there a total of about 39 hours. Pretty sweet.

Sophie Rae was born Dec 27th at 1:02am. 6lbs, 15oz, 20.5 inches long.

Some thoughts from Pregnancy #2

For those who i email, this will probably just make you mad since you've already seen most of this, but i wanted to record it for me to remember. {Added new comments in these brackets}

8/13/09 started feeling snowflake for sure (about 4 months)

8/20 A labor prediction I did online:
The day you deliver, outside will be windy. Your baby will arrive in the middle of the night. After a labor lasting approximately 48 hours, your child, a girl, will be born. Your baby will weigh about 7 pounds, 9 ounces, and will be 22-1/2 inches long. This child will have light hazel eyes and barely there black hair.
Fun!
My take at the time: Due in Jan, so probably will be windy. Just found out yesterday it's a girl, and DD1 has hazel eyes and was 7#, 7oz, so that's likely. My labor probably won't be that long since #1 was less than 8 hrs(hopefully). Pretty good :)
{Don’t remember the wind. Was middle of night. Only a few hours labor (unless you count when I thought my water broke). 6lb, 15oz, 20.5 inches. Dark blue eyes and lots of black hair.}

9/1-trip to see B in Houston: Short, but good. I had one prego meltdown. Sucks because I don’t remember any with gracie…guess now it’s prego x 2. More hormonal:)
Anyway, we went to NASA and that was fun-especially for the kids. Steven did a bunch of flight/landing simulators. He’s so cute when he’s into something. Heather and Aubrey met us for dinner-that was good. Gracie and Aubrey played and all the kids were good at the restaurant-that was a miracle.
Sunday we just ate and swam and ate. Then drove home.
Andy is quiet…can’t imagine being him with all of us taking over his house. Very nice house, too, by the way. I was kinda always worried about B & A, because it’s so sloooooow trying to do anything with kids, but they were champs…I guess it was all that practice with nieces and nephews.
Oh and the ride home was miserable when gracie woke up. She must have cried for an hour and I couldn’t do anything to console her…of course she fell back asleep a few blocks from the house. {already posted pics}

9/23/09 Crying at Izzos
Not because I finally got to eat.
Not because it tasted so good (which it did).
But because I was reading the paper. The story about the adopted brothers raised by different parents who met because they worked together.
Such a sap.

Random thoughts about prego brain:
Seemed to be so much worse this time. Some examples include leaving water running in the sink while I walk around the house or sit at the kitchen table?!? I cut up the checkcard instead of a credit card that I cancelled-and this was right before xmas so shopping was difficult. And just in general I can’t remember sh!t. Also had some bittersweet feelings about gracie. She’s getting so big! At the time I wrote this she was only getting bottles at night. And that was only for a few days then she went to sippy cups. She transitioned very well, too. No fights. (Guess we’re saving that for the nuk.)

11/4/09 Sophie it is...i think‏
So I asked Cindy (photographer) what nickname she would give for the name Sophie (she gave gracie her ‘grits’ nickname) and she said, “You’re going to name your baby Sophie???” I said, “that’s best option so far.”
Cindy: “giiiirl, get your running shoes on. Both sophies I have are non-stop.”
So I say, “funny because this baby never stops moving…snowflake moves waaay more than gracie ever did.” So she says, “well, then I guess she is a sophie”
Steven agreed.

12/14: Here’s some of an email chain between me and ally
A:I want you to write me an email about breastfeeding…how hard it was, how it got better and what it meant to you. You know… for when you are cursing at me :-)
L: I really need to be reminded that work/money is not that important. Because I’m already talking myself into less pumping…
I better get a new pump so at least I can guilt myself into getting my money’s worth there if nothing else.
A: Plus a new pump will probably be more efficient and you will get more and require less pumping.
{Never really did write the email. So lazy…besides I thought it was good for baby and me, but it was so terrible and gracie still got sick(so I didn’t claim it to be the miracle it was supposed to be) I really couldn’t put into words what it meant to me because it wasn't that great and hurt like hell. Honestly, I think it’s better for baby, but was soooo happy to stop. It’s so much easier with Sophie. Even pumping not as bad. Should be easy to reach my 6 mos goal}

12/15 Becky’s bday and my mom and dad’s wedding anniversary
Maybe not prego related, except that crazy dreams are common in pregnancy
I had a crazy dream about mom and dad last night. It was mom’s funeral in a big church and dad was there. Still dead, but there anyway. We were talking (not really about anything) when mom came in and sat by him. She really didn’t acknowledge me. She was talking to him but I couldn’t understand her-it was like how she was trying to talk at the end. I was frustrated because I couldn’t understand her and asked dad why I couldn’t. He was telling me that I didn’t fully understand. And I told him, no, I understand, she’s dead, but so are you and I can understand you. So weird. Then she said something else and I could understand that. But then the funeral was starting and Ms Cookie got up to speak. She’s the mom of my childhood friend. When she got up there to speak it was like it really hit me and I got really upset and started crying.
I woke up then hot and got really sad:( Something that’s been bugging me since she died was how many people probably still don’t know(like Ms Cookie)…I wish we would have known it would only have been in the houma paper…really should have been in the times picayune.

12/23 {last day of work}It’s so weird having my bag and boppy in the truck. And steven will be putting the infant carrier in there. I had to add Dreft to the grocery list and I’ll pack up my desk before leaving today.

Friday, January 15, 2010

Maternity Pics

Took these around 36-37 weeks. Gracie was soooo crabby and i'm pretty sure she didn't smile in any picture, but they came out good anyway. Here's a preview:









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